Mary Lou (Ryder) Sands
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Vienna, VA - Mary Lou (Ryder) Sands died on September 6, 2019 at the age of 91.
She was born in Salem to Raymond and Mary (McGrath) Ryder, graduating from Salem High School and Salem Hospital School of Nursing. Entering the US Air Force, she served as a flight operating nurse stationed at Turner AFB in Georgia where she met and married Capt. Ben Sands, Jr. of Tennessee. After assignments in Morocco, Omaha, Nebraska and the Pentagon, the couple and their growing family settled in Vienna, VA where Mary Lou continued her nursing career.
Upon retirement Mary Lou was active in her church and played golf for many years. She was also a diehard Red Sox fan, as well as a NE Patriots rooter.
Her beloved Ben passed away this past February and she was also preceded in death by her brother Don. Her memory is cherished by five children, 10 grandchildren and three great-grandchildren. She is also survived by a sister, Nancy Ryder Brissette, formerly of Melrose, MA and a brother David and his wife, Marilyn of Peabody.
Published on October 28, 2019


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Meg Lay
Nov 07, 2019
I didn’t get to meet Mary Lou but was informed by the shepherds center and was interested in hearing about her life . please accept my heartfelt sympathy ,knowing that her husband had died recently,is so hard for you all.
Stella Gieseler
Nov 07, 2019
I was so sorry to hear of Mary Lou's passing. She was such a wonderful person and will be missed by all who knew her. My condolences to her loved one.