MANCHESTER-BY-THE-SEA, MA - John H. Graves II, 74, of Manchester by-the-Sea, passed away peacefully on Sunday, March 11, 2018.
John's family is grateful to the staffs of Seasons of Danvers and Care Dimensions for their loving care over the past six months, and to Kaplan Family Hospice House for offering comfort in his final days.
John was a loving husband, father, brother, grandfather and uncle. He was a perpetual tinkerer, an avid reader, and an animal aficionado, with a seemingly boundless curiosity for learning about and mastering any new technology he could get his hands on (including cars, radio, cameras, personal computers and electronics), and a love for collecting new tools and toys he could use to play around with that technology.
John was also a dedicated photographer, with a camera constantly strapped around his neck at family functions, studying friends and family through the lens to capture the moment forever.
Professionally, John worked in sales for a variety of companies, often in industries such as automotive, personal computers, and I.T., which dovetailed with his personal interests. For the last 25 years of his career, John ran his own computer networking consultancy, Dynamic Devices.
But above all, John was a sailor. He was most in his element on the water, with the wind at his back, sunshine on his face, and surrounded always by people he loved. As a youth, John spent many happy afternoons in Boothbay Harbor, Maine, on his grandfather's motorboat, "Down Easter" and on his uncle's sailboat "Small Fry." In college, he taught sailing in Annapolis, Md. Eventually, he acquired his own sailboats, "Valhalla" and "Hot Flash." John loved nothing more than sailing with his family.
John was born in 1943 in Princeton, N.J. After graduating from high school in Towson, Md., John attended The University of Maryland at College Park. While on summer break from Maryland, John met his future wife, Joanne, in Winchester, Mass. They were married in Boston at The Church of Saint John the Evangelist in July 1965. Their first son was born in 1966, and a surprise set of twins followed in 1974.
Late in life, following Joanne's death, John was lucky to find love again. In 2014, he married Catherine "Cathy" Dahlstrom, and spent three happy years together with her in Manchester, joined by their cats, Buddy and Peppercorn.
John is survived by his wife, Catherine E. Graves; the children from his marriage to Joanne H. Graves, John H. Graves III and his wife, Helen, of Marion, Mass., Margaret M. Graves of Beverly, Mass., and Matthew J. Graves of San Francisco; and two grandchildren, Lisa and Paul Graves. He was predeceased by his first wife, Joanne Graves; and by his parents, John H. Graves and Katharine Whittier Graves.
John is also survived by his brothers and sister, Eben Graves of Norwalk, Conn., Thomas Graves of Pottsville, Pa., Barbara Graves and her wife, Edy Ambroz, of Florence, Mass., Jim Graves and his wife, Joyce, of Phoenix, Ariz.; and by 12 nieces and nephews.
John will be missed by Catherine's family as well, Carrie Holtan of Spokane Valley, Wash., Ross Dahlstrom and his wife, Shannon, of Chelmsford, Mass., Beth Wierling and her husband, Bob, of Franklin, Mass.; and by her four grandchildren.
Throughout his life, John was actively involved in organizations related to two of his greatest passions: sailing and amateur (i.e. "ham") radio. John (callsign WA1JG, and before that WB1EHL) was a member of The Cape Ann Amateur Radio Association, the North Shore Radio Association, and the American Radio Relay League. He was a longtime student, educator and leader with the Beverly chapter of the United States Power Squadrons, a maritime organization.
John was also actively involved in civic organizations. He was a longtime volunteer with The Manchester Boosters Club; a longstanding member of the Morgansolen Lodge of The Sons of Norway; a member of The Manchester Lions Club; he served as a Committee Chair for Troop 3 of the Boy Scouts of America; and he was an enthusiastic member of The Manchester Club for many years.
On Friday, John's family will hold visiting hours from 4 to 7 p.m. at Campbell Funeral Home, 525 Cabot St., Beverly, MA. A funeral will be held on Saturday at 10 a.m. at St. John's Episcopal Church, 705 Hale St., Beverly Farms, MA.
In lieu of flowers, contributions may be made in John's name to The Manchester Essex Education Fund, in care of the Trust Dept., Cape Ann Savings Trust & Financial Services, 109 Main St., Gloucester, MA 01930. Information, directions, condolences at www.campbellfuneral.com.
Published on March 14, 2018